I have been a graphic designer, writer, owned and operated a pottery studio, tended bar, traveled the world buying beautiful things with someone else’s money, taught math through art to kindergarten students and worked in drug & alcohol recovery. One summer during college, I worked seven days a week, twelve hours a day, as the “Brinemaster” in an industrial pea canning factory. You know, for prisons and institutions? Nothing glamorous like Birdseye or Green Giant. But, that’s another story.
I believe, I truly believe, we know who we are meant to be the moment we are born. The hitch in that giddy-up is that this was also the moment the rest of the world—our family, society, our friends—started telling us who we are supposed to be.
I knew I was different when I was five years old and enamored with the eldest son in the movie The Swiss Family Robinson. By the time I was twelve I knew what that “different” thing was. I remember praying that one day it would make some sort of sense. Otherwise it was just some sort of cruel joke or random unfortunate circumstance. It may have been the 60’s but the sex, drugs and rock and roll attitude had yet and most likely never would taint or enlighten the conservative midwestern town of 20,000 people I grew up in.
I spent years trying to be the person I was “supposed to be,” by my parents, society and most of all myself. Fear of my being who I am lead me to alcohol as the only way to cope with the feelings I had forced down inside of me. The fear and the anger and the hurt. The feeling that I was somehow inherently flawed. The certainty that I would always come in second best. Finally there wasn’t enough tequila north of the border to drown my pain, but trust me I tried.
Finally, I was spiraling down into a dark pit of hopelessness, isolation, and fear. For the first time in my life I truly understood the meaning of the word "despair." It’s no surprise that I found myself in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. Through AA, a determined soul searching and a brutally honest assessment of who I was, but even more importantly who I wanted to become, I climbed out of that dark and
With an engaging personality and an ascerbic wit, Tom has established a presence performing on the Los Angeles comedy circuit. He honed his speaking skills as an officer of Toastmasters International, where he delivered more than one hundred speeches and has been awarded sixty first-place ribbons. His first professional speaking engagement was at
Symantec Corporation that staffs 11,000 employees nationwide.
Tom is author of, "Let's Get Naked! Reveal the Undiscovered You", a step-by-step manual to self-discovery, "I am a Very Spiritual Yet Vulgar Man", a book of original quotes, and "My Uncle's Shoes & Other Gifts-Magical and Serendipitous Stories from Everyday Life", a collection of uplifting and inspiring stories, available through Amazon.com or PayPal for a reduced price
terrifying place. It was in those rooms I heard a woman,
sober several years and quite successful say,“I didn’t
quit drinking to have mediocre life. I quit drinking to
have a miraculous one,” and I knew that I wanted that.
I learned that if we are ever going to have any
chance of moving forward, of creating a
miraculous life and becoming the person
we were meant to be, we need to learn
to forgive. We need to forgive those
who held us up to the unrealistic,
unwanted and at times even impossible
expectations of “supposed to be.”
It is by forgiving them that we are finally
able to forgive ourselves for not measuring
up to those expectations. And it is by
forgiving ourselves that we set ourselves
free. Free to become the me we were
meant to be.
So, trust me when I say that I am aware that things don’t always go as
planned. I get it. We can’t change the hand life dealt us, however, we do get to make choices that will determine how that hand is played out. No matter what our sexuality or race or religion we all deserve to realize our dreams. We all deserve to become the person we were meant to be.
I don’t have the answers to all of life’s questions, but one thing I do know for sure —endings last as long as we choose and beginnings begin as soon as we are willing to start.
Together let’s find the courage to embrace our true selves and share
that self with the world as we fearlessly, happily and proudly say,
“This is who I am!”
Shall we begin?
Slay your demons, embrace your gifts and talents and become the person you have always dreamed of being. Through personal anecdotes, philosophical insights and slightly irreverent humor, Tom inspires the reader to explore a shift in perspective — to begin to see the amazing opportunities life offers us.
Whether it be a how-to manual or a book of inspirational and somewhat tawdry quotes, the reader is invited to rediscover the person they are meant to be, revel in this miraculous world, and through new eyes, begin to see the vast opportunities life offers. Learn to recognize and strip away the facades, break down the obstacles, see through the self deception and reveal the genuine undiscovered you.
"Remember that endings last as long as we choose &
beginnings begin as soon as we are willing to start. "
Our lives are busier than they have ever been. At the end of the day, how much energy do we really have left in us to chase our dreams? To change our lives? Bookshelves are inundated with self-help books claiming it’s as easy to change one’s life, as it is to change one’s shoes. But, Let's Get Naked! does not ask you to change. Instead, it acts as your guide to rediscovering the original you.
Both entertaining and inspiring, this book offers a series of worksheets walking the reader through the process. It’s fast! It’s simple! It works! Let’s Get Naked! opens the reader’s mind to the possibilities life offers, shows them how to get rid of the self-doubt, and inspires them discover who they were meant to be.
Go ahead. Get Naked! I think you'll like what you see.
Whether illuminated with angelic radiance or seasoned with the saltiness of a merchant seaman, we are all an amazing, wonderful mix of everything the Universe has to offer — perfect in our imperfections.
"We are never too late for a new
beginning. We always arrive right on time."
"When opportunity knocks, don’t just answer the door. Walk through it like you own that shit!"
"Working with Tom was a comfortable, fun and enlightening way for me to get clear on goals and obstacles I've created that get in the way. His straightforward tactics, blended with kindness, and just the right dosage of "new agey-ness" was what I needed to create a game plan for myself with built in motivational stop measures.
Gary McCarthy-Educator & Entrepreneur
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